Setting Limits with your Infant and Toddler

Why Limits Matter, Even in Early Parenting

Establishing Boundaries Provides Safety and Predictability

Establishing boundaries and setting limits for young children is an essential part of parenting. Children thrive when they know what is acceptable and what is not, as it provides them with a sense of safety and predictability. Setting clear limits helps children understand the rules of their environment and the expectations placed upon them. When parents consistently enforce boundaries, children learn self-control and respect for others’ belongings and spaces. It also lays the foundation for developing healthy relationships as they grow.

Avoiding Mixed Signals with Consistent Boundaries

As a parent, it’s natural to have mixed feelings about enforcing limits, especially when it involves everyday items like glasses, remote controls, or smartphones. You might think, “It’s okay, I don’t mind if they play with it,” or “I just put it back when they’re done with it.” While these thoughts are understandable, they can lead to inconsistent boundaries that confuse your child. When limits are unclear, children may test boundaries more frequently, leading to frustration for both parent and child. Consistent limits, however, teach children that certain items are not toys and that some behaviors are inappropriate.

Learning Through Discomfort is Part of Growth

Sometimes, parents hesitate to set limits because they don’t want their children to feel badly or have a negative response to the limit. It’s important to ask yourself, why would they feel bad? What would happen if they felt bad? While it's natural to want to protect your child from discomfort, occasional feelings of disappointment or frustration are part of learning and growing. When children experience these feelings in a safe and supportive environment, they learn to cope with them. This helps them develop resilience and emotional intelligence, which are crucial skills for navigating the challenges of life.

Determine What’s Okay and What’s Not

It's also important to clarify what is okay for your child to handle and what you would prefer they not touch. Consider items like fragile objects, electronics, or items that hold sentimental value. Would you be upset if one of these items were broken or lost? If the answer is yes, then setting a clear limit is crucial to avoid potential anger or frustration. By deciding which items are off-limits and communicating these decisions to your child, you establish a clearer understanding of your expectations and help prevent accidents or misunderstandings.

How Boundaries Benefit Parents, Too

Sitting correctly in a chair is a skill children learn. 

Setting boundaries also benefits you as a parent. When your children learn early that certain items are not for them, you avoid the back and forth that often comes with inconsistent boundaries. While it may be hard to imagine now, before long, you will have a preschooler or elementary school student who is capable of taking or moving things when you aren't as physically close to them as you are now. Helping them learn where things belong in your home will make life less stressful for everyone. When everyone in the household knows what is not for them and how to put things back where they belong, it fosters a more organized and peaceful environment. Clear and consistent boundaries not only help your child feel secure but also create a more harmonious home for the entire family.

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